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MOTIVATION

The following posts on The Pleasure Cure were published in the MOTIVATION category.

THE REWARDS OF UNHAPPINESS

14 Nov 2011 | ABOUT HAPPINESS: HOW YOU CAN GET MORE OF IT and MOTIVATION

What do you do if there is an area in your life that doesn’t make you happy and is not very pleasurable?

I’ve thought and investigated unhappiness quite a bit and have come to a momentary flash of insight. The first thing you must do when feeling unhappy is to identify the beliefs that are involved in creating this unhappy and unpleasurable situation.

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Change Your Life Forever: The Most Important Question To Ask Yourself

10 Apr 2011 | KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT and MOTIVATION


If you haven’t answered the question, “What is my purpose in life?”, you should give it a go.  A purpose gives you a reason for living and guides your decisions in life.  It is different from a goal.  Goals are drafted in order to keep true to one’s purpose. A purpose is different because it will provide you with meaning.  People are generally happier when they engage in more meaningful activities — meaningful in regards to your purpose in life, not meaningful in regards to what others think is meaningful.  A purpose will also help you overcome obstacles in life and motivate you when you are feeling down.

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EMBRACE THE LEPRECHAUN: The Bad being Good

17 Mar 2011 | ABOUT HAPPINESS: HOW YOU CAN GET MORE OF IT and MOTIVATION

The Leprechaun likes mischief and today I am feeling particularly mischievous.  The thought of being bad makes me exited.  My happy cells are dancing in my body.  As I am happy thinking of the prospect of being bad, I ask myself whether being bad is pleasurable.  Do humans actually enjoy being bad?  Therapists are often attempting to embrace the good and positive in people, but rarely do we embrace the badness in the same.  What makes the good better than the bad?  Researchers say that both “good” and “bad” actions stimulate the reward center of the brain.  In other words, being bad can be as pleasurable as being good!  I can feel the truth of that today; I can feel how being bad is so tremendously pleasurable.  If the bad and the good can make us feel equally satisfied, why do we shun the bad?  I suppose it is because we feel it is harmful to others.  But I am not convinced that this is true.  Truly benevolent people, thoughts, and actions create the strongest emotional, physical and intellectual prisons.  For example, it is hurtful to be forced into particular practices and ways of being by someone who is good to a fault.  One cannot express or act in any other way than what is delineated by the “truly” benevolent.  In the end, good and bad labels have been created to control our behaviors.  Language binds us to particular ways of thinking and behaving.  If we were to abolish the words “bad” and “good” we may find that we can embrace so many more aspects of ourselves and others.  Hence, for today I am embracing the leprechaun in me!

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Tell Your Mind to Shut Up and Listen to Your Body!

23 Sep 2010 | MAXIMIZE YOUR HAPPINESS AND PLEASURE! and MOTIVATION

I was talking to a friend about giving up pleasures that dominate our lives and she wondered whether the feeling of pleasure was determined by the mind or the body. Or to rephrase the question, she wanted to know who had the stronger voice in determining what is pleasurable: the mind or the body. I found this to be an important reflection because it challenged my notion of what was pleasurable. Was I determining pleasure with my head or my body or both? And, if I determine pleasure by merely listening to my head, then is it really a pleasure? If my body’s opinion wasn’t being taken into consideration, was it still a true pleasure?

 

My conversation with my smart friend left me wondering whether I really knew what pleasured me. I believe that sitting in front of the computer for 6 hours straight is pleasurable. No, really, I do. I also believe that dancing all night is pleasurable, even if I am exhausted the next day.
Sitting in front of the computer for this amount of time must only be pleasurable to my mind. My body cannot find pleasure in sitting for so long. My question to myself today is: What does my body find pleasurable and is it contrary to what my mind finds pleasurable?

 

Furthermore, should the experience of pleasure be determined by taking all dimensions (physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual) into consideration?

 

Lastly, how do we give the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual equal power in the decision making process and should we? I am intrigued.

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ADD DON’T DELETE: Changing Your Life

23 Mar 2010 | DESIGNING A NEW LIFE and MOTIVATION

Changing behavior has often meant that I had to stop doing something.  Sometimes I have wanted to stop eating as much, sometimes I have wanted to stop talking to someone, or sometimes I have wanted to stop procrastinating.  My focus has always been on STOPPING or on deprivation. But, we engage in behaviors for a reason.  Maybe we eat too much because we are stressed or because we want to forget about an emotion.  Or maybe we don’t want to talk to someone because we are afraid of being hurt.  If behaviors (even the negative ones) helps us cope with life, stopping from doing them would be counterproductive.  For example, if I try to stop eating so much what do I do about the stress or the emotions?  Instead, the answer may be to think about adding things to our lives, not subtracting them.  Those things are simple pleasures!

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Are You A Creator or a Victim?

22 Mar 2010 | MAXIMIZE YOUR HAPPINESS AND PLEASURE! and MOTIVATION

A friend sent me this and it really talks to how life is what we decide we want it to be.

“In life, attitude is everything. The circumstances that have shaped our lives are as unique and individual as our personalities – no two are the same – yet our ability to grow as individuals, to evolve into more compassionate, loving and conscious people, depends not on what has happened to us, but on our attitude towards these situations. When faced with hardship, do I lie down or step up? Do I resist, or embrace the situation for growth?

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